Let them be kids

Why do mothers want their daughters to grow up so fast? 

When I look around and see very young girls wearing makeup and clothing styles far too mature for their age group, I often ponder this question. Is it an attempt to draw attention to themselves through their children and to live vicariously through their daughters to revisit or perhaps correct their own youth? I just don’t know. The last thing my daughter was interested in at age 8 was makeup and dressing up like a rock star with questionable morals. I find it troubling.

My heart swells from memories of watching my children rush around searching for eggs and that special basket prepared just for them by the elusive Easter Bunny–Such joyful times. Many parents are now also taking away that jolly old fellow in red for the holidays. What’s that about?

I continued these innocent and wholesome little traditions all the way through graduate school with my daughter. In full disclosure, I tried to end the Easter basket practice when she entered college, and she would not hear of it. That’s how much she liked those childhood traditions and how special the experiences were for her. My daughter’s dorm mates soon joined the fun and it became a bit expensive for this single mother to be an Easter bunny, but…kids of all ages deserve a taste of childhood magic now and then.  🙂

Mothers set the stage for what their daughters will value and in many ways they map out how their daughters feel about themselves and others. We must make sure they are ready and have the right level of emotional maturity before they are forced to handle situations that should be reserved for adulthood. We must first let them be kids!

From a mother who lived through those beautiful years with a daughter who has done nothing but make her proud, my advice is…Please don’t rob your daughters (and sons) of those innocent years. Join in…Celebrate with them! They spend long enough in the adult world dealing with adult issues. Let them be kids as long as they can.

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Happy Father’s Day!

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I am blessed to have several positive ‘father figures’, and I realize from observing their lives, that it isn’t always easy being a good dad, especially in these times.

I said that to say this:  If you do have such an angel in your life please let him (them) know first, that you recognize their job isn’t easy and second, how much you appreciate them and how much they mean to you.

The fact is, parents can be a blessing or a curse, so if you are one of the fortunate ones who has great parents (grandparents), Please let them know and treat them with respect. Yes, even when you may not agree with their advice, because more times than not it’s coming from a place of love.

Dads, we Thank You for all you do for us each day and yes, you are a true blessing.

-RK Barclay

Honoring…Remembering…

Honoring the sacrifices of those by whom our liberties are preserved —  The brave men and women of the military.  We Salute you with sincere gratitude today and

always.  God bless…

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Remembering the love, support and joy of those loved ones now with God.  The biggest challenge is celebrating the joy of good times shared, absent the pain of

loss.  I lost someone special in the past year and I’m just now reaching that place of remembering with love, absent the emptiness resulting from the loss.  Yes, life

moves on and we must continue to look to the future with hope.

Wishing you all a time of honoring and remembering those special people in our lives.  May God guide us through the pain of loss and clear a path to the joy possible

in all our tomorrows.  -RK Barclay